Sometimes, you’ll find yourself in a situation that you’re unhappy with. In most cases, you’ll find a solution and move on. For more significant situations, like your marriage, you don’t want to make a rash decision. That’s why you’ve waited so long to talk to your spouse about divorce.
A divorce isn’t necessarily what you want, but you aren’t sure what else would help. Fortunately, there is a way to decide. You can talk to your spouse.
Open lines of communication support healthy relationships
Trouble in marriage doesn’t automatically have to lead to divorce, but both parties have to be willing to talk. If you communicate what makes you unhappy or what makes you feel good about your relationship, it gives your spouse somewhere to start. The same is true when you listen to their needs and wants.
How should you bring up the concerns you have?
This is what’s tricky about talking about unhappiness: the potential for divorce and recognizing problems in your marriage. When you speak with your spouse, you don’t want to sound like you’re blaming them for everything. That’s why many therapists and counselors suggest using “I” phrases, like “I feel uncomfortable with how things are,” instead of “You make me feel uncomfortable.”
You may be surprised to find that some spouses are completely oblivious to the other’s unhappiness or discontent. By having this discussion, no matter how complex it gets, you’ll be able to make sure that the issues are out in the open. Then, you and your spouse can discuss if divorce is the right option or if you’d rather try therapy or other techniques to save your marriage.